Our Annual August Treat: Give One to Give Her Wings

It’s that time of year again! As we swelter in the heat and start thinking about school supplies, we can get excited because it’s time for one of our top favorite campaigns of the year – Give One to Give Her Wings !  Our 21 mamas are in terrible adversity, and every spare penny goes to the needs of the children. We love to use our August fundraiser to give them some pampering that they so deserve. We get to know our mamas pretty well, so we have very specific ideas for gifts this year and we have all new buttons for you to share!  woo hoo !

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You can check out our current fundraiser page to see all the buttons we have and join in, so that when you donate something this month to one of our mamas, you can post about it on social media. We love seeing these buttons popping up on Instagram and Facebook and Twitter — because we’re watching love rain down on some really deserving women.  ( see our fundraiser page for the instructions.)

Our little flock has grown so much this year, and we know that God is using this ministry to ease suffering and we want to thank you for caring! Please share our August campaign with your friends! We can’t wait to bless our tired mamas with some pizza nights and a box of chocolates or a new piece of clothing.

Our prayer group is getting the periodic updates on what to pray for specifically, and if you haven’t signed up for our newsletter and want to know what we are doing each month – there should be a scrolling box popping up on the right side of your screen 🙂  (If you don’t see the sign up box, send me an email: Katy@giveherwings.com)

It’s been a big year so far and God is in this!  xoxo


Introducing our Gorgeous, Hand-crafted Bracelet!

DSC_0787We are incredibly excited to be able to sell these gorgeous works of art to benefit our April and May mamas this spring! ALL proceeds go toward helping these two mamas be able to launch from a better place after leaving their respective abusive spouses. These bracelets express what we wish all women could grasp: that Jesus is a covering for us — our Protector — regardless of what is happening in our lives. We can run to Him and find safety for our hearts, souls and bodies. How we wish all women knew how precious they are to Him!

The is one of our organization’s favorite verses. We exist to help women who were previously neglected, oppressed and abused find their wings. But, sometimes, that is just too hard at first . . . too scary, too risky. Sometimes, we need to learn to hide under the wings of Jesus . . . and then His wings become our wings as we grow to look more and more like Him. And, we eventually learn to fly. But, birds do not only fly . . . they sing. They are free . . . free to fly, sing and yet free to tuck ourselves right back under our Heavenly Father’s glorious span if we want to. How beautiful is that?!



Do you have a woman in your life who needs this reminder on a day to day basis? Does she need to know how precious she is to her Redeemer? So precious that she has the freedom to run to Him all day and every day, if need be? If so, please buy one of these beauties. They are hand-crafted, hand-stamped and will not tarnish. Also, we are excited to offer these bracelets in Spanish this year!



Each piece is custom made, so no two will be identical. The feather designs are all slightly different. We hope you will love it as much as we do — a beautiful reminder that we are each unique and precious to our Father. Each cuff has a heart clasp and features a feather charm and pink leather ties.



Also, just like the past two years, please note that, since these bracelets are custom made by Monique, they are made to order and take 1-3 weeks to arrive. The price is $35 and this includes shipping! They will be available for 6 weeks. Go here to purchase a bracelet (click on one-time donation through PayPal, and please note whether you would like yours in English or Spanish).

And thank you. Thank you from our April mama (“Sunbeam“) and our May mama (yet to be announced). And thank you from us.

Bondage & “Discipline”? Or Wings? — Be Blessed by a Give Her Wings Gift

As we approach the time where “50 Shades of Grey” will hit the theaters with a splash, our hearts (here at Give Her Wings) are heavy. They are heavy because we stand for freedom . . . we stand for grace . . . we stand for what is good and lovely. And we stand for these values passionately because Christ stands for them passionately. The sensational book, “50 Shades . . .” draws the reader into a story of bondage, discipline and (let’s face it) abuse. And, you know what? “Consensual” abuse is still abuse. Anything that takes away another person’s freedom goes directly against what Jesus came to do for us. He took the bondage; He took the chains; He took death upon a cross to give us freedom. Freedom to be in a relationship with Him, freedom from sin, freedom from death, freedom to love others. And our charge? Set the captives free. Be like Him.

Even if it is consensual, then the person in bondage is still just that — in bondage. The terms of the dominant-submissive relationship are manipulative. He gives her everything she could ever want in return for her submission to his bondage. Is that love? Is that freedom? We love, as Christians . . . without expecting anything in return. How does Christ love us? He never pushes, never demands, never forces and NEVER takes for himself to the detriment to others.

And any woman who has been in an abusive relationships knows the death-of-her-soulness when she lived in chains. And you . . . you see it in her eyes. You want to ask her, “Do you think so little of yourself that you would let him do that to you?” And the answer would be “yes”. Because she does not know, yet, does not believe in the Christ who loves freedom or has not fully understood the love that HE alone can give her. She cannot fathom it. And that is why we even exist. To help her fathom it.

We love those who are in bondage. We love them. We don’t accept that it is OK, normal or, even, healthy. If you are in a bondage and discipline relationship, please know that there is grace waiting for you. Please don’t stay in. You remember when you felt like you were in control and he let you feel that way and, now, you realize that you are not. And you do not know how to escape. And you think it is too late. But, it is not.

As a meaningful counter to what Hollywood is doing, Give Her Wings would like to offer my book, “Give Her Wings: Help and Healing After Abuse” for free with ANY donation to our non-profit organization. Big or small. The book is yours. Because we have a mama (in March) who will need our help very soon. She is not amused by bondage and discipline. She lived, for years and years, under the heavy handedness of an abuser. To this day, years later, he still attacks her in every way. She fights and struggles against a corrupt legal system to keep her children and her sanity. And, still, he is allowed to tear her apart, emotionally and financially. We want to come to her aid. She is our sister, after all. Every donation that is given will go directly to paying our March mama’s bills and bringing her some relief, financially. You can give a donation and receive your free book here.

We want to give a real gift of love this Valentine’s Day. True love. Like the love that Christ gave by giving up on the Cross. Donate today and receive your special gift in the mail. A love gift, from us.


The “Ten Commandments” of Socialization — by George Simon

George Simon writes a wonderful book entitled “Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of our Age.” Within its pages, he includes the “Ten Commandments of Socialization”. While the book is for adults, these commandments can certainly be applied to children, as well. Many children of abusers take on some of the characteristics of their abusers, unfairly and unwittingly. Single moms who are trying to raise their children up in the Lord have the arduous task of teaching good character to children who have, not only come from a broken home, but who have lived under the influence of a father lacking in character and integrity. This is why I consider some of the single moms who are doing all they can to follow Christ some of the best mothers in the world.

Dr. Simon’s truths work because they are actually biblical. So, I have taken his truths and added Scripture and/or biblical truths to enforce them (in italics), even further, in our own family. I hope that these are a help:

1. You are not the center of the universe. Be mindful of how you, your urges and desires, and most especially your behavior impact everyone and everything else that exists. Christ is the center of the universe. “I am the Alpha and the Omega,” says the Lord God, “who is, and who was, and who is to come, the Almighty.” Rev. 1:8

2. Remember, you are not really entitled to anything. Strive to be genuinely grateful. Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thess. 5:18

3. You are neither an insignificant speck nor are you so precious or essential to the universe that it simply cannot do without you. Keep a balanced perspective on your sense of worth. You struggle with the depravity of sin while holding the state of dignity as a beloved child of God.

4. Have the utmost reverence for the truth. Be ever mindful of humankind’s incredible capacity to deceive, including oneself. Honestly and humbly acknowledge and reckon with your mistakes. The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? Jeremiah 17:9

5. Be the master of your appetites and aversions. Use the self control that was given as a gift to you through the Holy Spirit. (Gal. 5:22-23)

6. Be the master of your impulses. Be slow to speak; control your reactions. Do not grab for selfish reasons. Use wisdom in all things.

7. Strive to develop solidity, strength and rightness of purpose, with regard to your will. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. Romans 5:3-4

8. Neither your tendency to anger nor your instinct to aggress is inherently evil. But fight only when necessary, fight fairly, and above all, fight constructively and with as much care as possible to make things better while respecting the rights, needs and boundaries of others. Training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age. Titus 2:12

9. Treat those you encounter with civility and generosity. We are all created in the imagine of God. There is common grace. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. Matthew 5:45

10. To the best of your ability, be of sincere heart and purpose. Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth. 1 John 3:18