Co-Parenting with Wolves, Part 5: The Wolf in “Rage Mode”

We know the wolf can be charming, and we know he likes to put on a sheep suit and get attention and self-pity (usually to disguise the fact that he just tried to eat one of the sheep).  But what do we do when the curtains are closed, and nobody is there to witness, and he rips off the sheep suit and bares his fangs?

This is the part that keeps us terrified for our lambs’ safety, and willing to dance to the wolf’s tune if only he promises not to eat our lamb. Right?

Well. Here at Give Her Wings, we know that


Here are quick links to the first 4 posts/videos in this series, or you can go directly to our video tab here.

Part 1: What is a Wolf?

Part 2: Safety First!

Part 3: Badmouthing

Part 4: Combating Lies

Stay tuned for the last video in this series, Part 6: The crisis of faith we have when we are battling wolves for our children! God bless you all, xoxoxo




Co-Parenting with Wolves, Part 4: Combating Lies

Have you ever watched someone tell a lie, and you knew that you couldn’t prove that they were lying? When your children are the target of those kinds of lies, it can be maddening trying to counteract the resulting anxiety and confusion in their hearts and minds.

'My what big teeth you have! Also your grey and furry and clearly a wolf. . . I'm not an imbecile.'

Join us for part 4 in our video series (Co-Parenting with a Wolf). Today we are talking about how to train our children to spot motives behind behavior, in this case the motivation behind a wolf’s lies:


Here are quick links to the first three posts/videos in this series, in case you missed them:

Part 1: What is a Wolf?

Part 2: Safety First!

Part 3: Badmouthing

and stay tuned for part 5: What to do when the wolf is in “rage mode”!  xoxo



Co-Parenting with a Wolf, Part 3: Badmouthing

Wolves simply cannot (or more accurately, will not) ever stop badmouthing their victims. You can count on a wolf to never miss an opportunity to say mean, negative things and outright lie about you to anyone who will listen. But when it is your child that receives their verbal spew, is there anything you can do about it?

This is one of the many reasons that co-parenting resources for divorced parents are generally useless, when it comes to abusive people. They assume that each parent has a conscience, and want to put their children’s well-being first. You cannot pretend that a wolf ever has good motives (because he doesn’t)– this would invite further harm on your child.

In part 4 we will talk about the wolf’s lies (which could fill the ocean if he had enough time).  Here are the links to the first two posts/videos in this series:

Part 1 – What is a Wolf?

Part 2 – Safety Issues

Stay tuned and God bless you as you travel this road! xoxo


Co-Parenting with Wolves, Part 2: Safety Issues

Our second video is up – this is part 2 of 6 in our series on co-parenting with abusive people!  You can check out our introduction to this series and what led us to tackle this topic in our last post. Please excuse the quality of this video, I am new to this video thing and I had some issues with this one. :/ Bleh!  But I think the next installments in this series are going to be less fuzzy. I hope, anyway. 😉

Today we want to discuss some safety issues when dealing with wolves, because this is tricky and can be dangerous. Plus we know that many of you are trying to tackle these beasts without the proper support! and stay tuned for our next video on Badmouthing — the wolf is a sneaky fellow, and lies and badmouthing are some of his favorite weapons. We are wise to the wolf, though, and not only can we predict his behavior, we can put up a fight (figuratively speaking :))


Co-Parenting With Wolves: Our New Video Series!

We had such a successful Christmas campaign, and we were so high on the happiness of watching God provide for all 40 of the children on our list, that it felt like a gut-punch to see how many of our mamas are being assaulted with fresh court battles.

I am not sure if the success of Christmas and the hope and relief that it brought to our families was like waving a red flag in front of a bull?  Like if Satan could pick a time to attack everyone anew, and bring everyone back under bondage and fear, January would be the perfect time to do it?

Whatever is going on in heaven this January, here on earth we are back to the daily grind. And this pressed upon our hearts the great need for encouragement for parents who have to share their precious children with unsafe people. So we put our heads together and came up with a video series on co-parenting, and it ended up being 6 parts long before I felt like it was complete (for the moment).

We are not media experts, by any means! We’ve never done this before so forgive us if the editing and presentation are less than news-perfect 🙂  However we feel that there is a huge un-met need in this area, and most people in these awful situations cannot afford hours and hours of therapy, or loads of books on dealing with wolfish people. Often time, energy, and money are in such short supply that we thought bite-sized videos on this topic would be just what the doctor ordered. 🙂

We pray that this new series encourages you that you are not alone, and that God is not silent or uninterested in your plight. God is awakening this generation to the horrific abuses going on within the Body of Christ, because He is not happy and we must answer the call to bring justice and mercy for the widows and fatherless.

Take courage, mama! Because Greater is He that is in you, than he that is in the world. Amen.

Here are links to the next videos in this series:

Part 2: Safety Issues First!

Part 3: Badmouthing

Part 4: Combating Lies

Part 5: Rage Mode

Part 6: Crisis of Faith