Bondage & “Discipline”? Or Wings? — Be Blessed by a Give Her Wings Gift

As we approach the time where “50 Shades of Grey” will hit the theaters with a splash, our hearts (here at Give Her Wings) are heavy. They are heavy because we stand for freedom . . . we stand for grace . . . we stand for what is good and lovely. And we stand for these values passionately because Christ stands for them passionately. The sensational book, “50 Shades . . .” draws the reader into a story of bondage, discipline and (let’s face it) abuse. And, you know what? “Consensual” abuse is still abuse. Anything that takes away another person’s freedom goes directly against what Jesus came to do for us. He took the bondage; He took the chains; He took death upon a cross to give us freedom. Freedom to be in a relationship with Him, freedom from sin, freedom from death, freedom to love others. And our charge? Set the captives free. Be like Him.

Even if it is consensual, then the person in bondage is still just that — in bondage. The terms of the dominant-submissive relationship are manipulative. He gives her everything she could ever want in return for her submission to his bondage. Is that love? Is that freedom? We love, as Christians . . . without expecting anything in return. How does Christ love us? He never pushes, never demands, never forces and NEVER takes for himself to the detriment to others.

And any woman who has been in an abusive relationships knows the death-of-her-soulness when she lived in chains. And you . . . you see it in her eyes. You want to ask her, “Do you think so little of yourself that you would let him do that to you?” And the answer would be “yes”. Because she does not know, yet, does not believe in the Christ who loves freedom or has not fully understood the love that HE alone can give her. She cannot fathom it. And that is why we even exist. To help her fathom it.

We love those who are in bondage. We love them. We don’t accept that it is OK, normal or, even, healthy. If you are in a bondage and discipline relationship, please know that there is grace waiting for you. Please don’t stay in. You remember when you felt like you were in control and he let you feel that way and, now, you realize that you are not. And you do not know how to escape. And you think it is too late. But, it is not.

As a meaningful counter to what Hollywood is doing, Give Her Wings would like to offer my book, “Give Her Wings: Help and Healing After Abuse” for free with ANY donation to our non-profit organization. Big or small. The book is yours. Because we have a mama (in March) who will need our help very soon. She is not amused by bondage and discipline. She lived, for years and years, under the heavy handedness of an abuser. To this day, years later, he still attacks her in every way. She fights and struggles against a corrupt legal system to keep her children and her sanity. And, still, he is allowed to tear her apart, emotionally and financially. We want to come to her aid. She is our sister, after all. Every donation that is given will go directly to paying our March mama’s bills and bringing her some relief, financially. You can give a donation and receive your free book here.

We want to give a real gift of love this Valentine’s Day. True love. Like the love that Christ gave by giving up on the Cross. Donate today and receive your special gift in the mail. A love gift, from us.

 

3 Replies to “Bondage & “Discipline”? Or Wings? — Be Blessed by a Give Her Wings Gift”

  1. I need this book. I am in the process of leaving an abusive relationship. I would like to donate what I can afford at the moment. My financial future is uncertain. How can I make a donation to receive the book? Thank you. :-/

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