I have a confession. I used to hate Father’s Day. I mean really, really HATE Father’s Day. (And Mother’s Day, but that’s another story.) Commercials, songs, cards, and sermons all reminded me of what I did not have. By touting the glorious, irreplaceable, life-shaping contribution that dads make to a child’s life, I was made keenly aware that I was lacking something big. Something over which I had no choice, no control of but without which I would never be whole or good. Or so I thought.
I can’t pinpoint a moment in time, but as an adult I finally got it. (Oh, how I wish I was a faster learner!) I have the PERFECT parent!! I knew all the church songs and Bible verses, but it clicked in my heart in a different way. That deep-down, in my gut feeling…that my Father in Heaven is the only parent that I need. It was a crazy-good, heart and mind-changing realization! It took time, but I could finally let go of the notion that I deserved less and embrace what love God was offering me.
His love is kind and gentle, never forceful or aggressive. His love is not based on my performance. I cannot earn it. I cannot lose it. THAT, my friends, is a Real Father. That love whispers truth at all times. Over and over, in my darkest hours he called me to Him. I couldn’t accept His love at first. I couldn’t imagine anyone could love me. When your own parent(s) reject and harm you, this is a tough idea to wrap your brain around. (Plus I just don’t get things right away.) Yet He never gave up loving me. He persisted in the most gentlemanly way.
The Lord sees your pain. He knows your struggles and what your children have suffered and continue to have to endure. His plan, His desire for you is that you feel His love. Rest in it, soak in it, trust in it, and trust in Him. God is good. All good, all the time. We live in a world full of turmoil, yet He overcame it.
I am an imperfect parent. We all are. But we break the chains, we break the cycles. Our past does not define who we are or who we will become. We are His. We are loved and we are lovable. He formed us, chose us, came for us, gives us hope, and will never forsake us or leave us. So, really, this Father’s Day is day is His gift to us. He is the best dad ever. Happy Father’s Day.